This was not the first time I was hearing this question but it was the first time I was paying attention to my response. As a mum of two kids, (an infant and a toddler) with no nanny, people wonder how I do it. Most times the question flies over my head because I don’t think I am doing anything special. I am just doing what needs to be done and finding that it’s possible.
When Mofolusade asked me how I did it, I thought, “okay, maybe there is something I am doing to make it work.” I told her I am a routine person. I put everything and everyone into a routine to be able to get things done. I didn’t realize that it was the routine that was working for me, I just do things a certain way, consistently because I find that it works. So my typical day, for instance, let’s say this morning so far, will be, I wake up about 5:30 A.M when hubby is getting ready for work.
I prepare Boobman’s (my son) lunch for school. I also make breakfast for hubby (this is no longer consistent as sometimes I just won’t open my eyes by 5:30.) By 7:15 A.M I wake Boobman up, hand him his tea and prepare his bath. After tea, he wants to pee and we head for the bathroom. After peeing, he has a bath, gets dressed and off to school. Most times Boobgirl (my daughter) is still sleeping so I carry her along, sleeping. If she is awake, we will feed on the way to drop Boobman.
When we come back, I give her a bath and she usually goes to sleep for a few hours (not today though I think she senses more babies are coming around and wants to be part of the action). Then I work out, bath, eat and write, in that order.
The rest of the day I can sleep, cook, write some more, watch a movie, (feed and change Boobgirl in between all this). By 1:45 P.M I set out to pick Boobman who closes by 2 P.M. When he comes back, lunch, we watch cartoon, and whatever else comes up. The day leads and I follow.
When daddy comes back from work, he baths Boobman, does whatever dishes are in the sink and whatever may come up.
I should add that having help from a partner or anyone offering is a good thing. Sometimes you even have to ask for help as I have done with my friends. The important thing is to listen to your body and know when it is becoming too much for you.
I am not one to bullshit myself. If something isn’t working for me, I don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone. I am a feeling person; I do what feels right for me. And I don’t buy into any stories that it can’t be done. If there is one person on earth doing it, then it can be done.
I cannot wash to save my life so I have someone come in 3 times a week to wash and clean the house.
In the end, it is the stories that you tell yourself that is true for you. With mommying as with any other thing you do in life. (tweet it, yo)