Help! My spouse is not supportive of my business.

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Help! My spouse is not supportive of my business.

You know usually, a job is from 9-5 but a business is from dawn to dusk. As mumpreneurs, we have to juggle the many responsibilities we have. We wear the hat of a woman, entrepreneur, wife, and mom, which essentially means we are the nurse, driver, the fixer, the clown, chef, lover, nanny, stylist, etc of the home all at the same time. Many find it difficult to master the art of balancing their home – work life and this can put a strain on the family.

Your husband may not understand why you are so adamant about doing this business. Maybe your business is taking a while to become profitable, or maybe he can’t fathom why you would sit in a shop for hours to make peanuts. The office job may seem more attractive to him, he can’t imagine his wife being a hairdresser or tailor. Has it become unbearable, and do you desire his approval and support?

Most men need to see to believe. Even though your business may not be at the point of profit, you can still show your husband the potential in it by involving him. When you’re working on your business, you can run things by him, show him samples of your products, drafts of your work, etc. When you start doing this, at first it may seem like it’s of no significance, you may not even get a reaction, but over time you’ll notice some involvement.

Why?

  • Most men like to see consistency and persistence.
  • When you involve them, they can see how committed you are
  • They will see your passion and how good you are at what you do.
  • They get to observe your work ethics
  • They take pride in being an integral part of your journey.
  • Generally, people find it difficult to support what they don’t understand.

Be patient!

I have done so many businesses that seem unrelated, but have all contributed to my success so far as an entrepreneur. At the time, it seemed like I was picking up projects and dropping them and it drove my husband up the walls. When such happens, your husband will lose faith in you. But don’t worry when you find something that works and you stick to it, it’ll grow and make him a believer again.

It won’t happen overnight so in the meantime, put your best into your business and don’t be discouraged.


 

Communication is key!

There are many reasons why your spouse might be unsupportive. The only way to know for sure is to ask. Once you know what the concern is, device a plan to get them on board.

When I realised my husband had some reservations about my entrepreneurial journey, we spoke about it, and I addressed some of his concerns, and compromised when possible. Below are some reservations your spouse may have:

Your spouse may not understand entrepreneurship and why you want to go into the stress of it.

They may not understand why you would forfeit your comfort, stability and security for the unknown

They may be worried about the finances being affected. If there’s a financial concern, you can keep your job until your business can match and/or surpass your income. If you’ve quit, consider a part time job while working hard to build your business.

They may be concerned about your time with the family being compromised, family responsibilities being neglected especially where children are involved.

They think they are looking out for you by telling you the hard facts about businesses failing. Statistically, a lot of businesses fail and it can be devastating.

They may feel like you are deviating from “the plan” (spoken or unspoken).

Don’t assume, talk about it.

Even when it seems like they are being unsupportive, it may just be that they don’t understand your business, thereby not knowing how they can support you. Let them in, let them help you in their areas of strength, ask for their feedback and use it when possible.

Talk to them about victories and challenges in your business so they can celebrate with you or offer solutions where needed.

As much as you need them to be patient with you on this new journey, they need you to be patient with them in adjusting to the changes a new business brings. Remember that your attention is now divided and naturally some things will suffer until you get a hang of things.

At the end of the day, strike a balance, know your spouse, and make your money!

Lola Coker-Esu is an Author, Speaker and Coach whose main objective is to help female entrepreneurs build their businesses with confidence so they can live the life they desire. She hopes to achieve this through training on building your confidence and creating passive income.

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Lola Coker-Esu
Lola Coker-Esu
Lola Coker-Esu is an Author, Speaker and Coach whose main objective is to help female entrepreneurs build their businesses with confidence so they can live the life they desire. She hopes to achieve this through training on building your confidence and creating passive income.

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