Serve it with a spoon of Confidence

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Mumpreneur, what is stopping you from making the kind of money you desire and asking for the sale. Let’s address the elephant in the room… FEAR!

Often times, the major source of fear is change, the unknown automatically brings fear. Things begin to look scary and you start to loose confidence and wonder if you can make it. I’ve been there and I know what it feels like to doubt yourself even if it’s just for a moment. Many of you procrastinate because you want it to be perfect. This quest for perfection often comes from the ‘what if’ fear. What if it doesn’t work out, what if people don’t respond, what if people laugh, what if I fall flat on my face. What if, what if, what if? I have another ‘what if’ for you… what if it works out, what if people like it, what if you succeed!

Fear is rooted in insecurities and a lot of these insecurities started from childhood. Maybe someone made a comment that was hurtful. No one ever wants to feel lousy so we build a defence to avoid it. Usually that defence hinders you from taking risks and capitalizing on opportunities.

Growing up, I had some insecurities about my height and it took me a while to embrace it. I had to learn that I could not change my height and being insecure about it wouldn’t change a thing. This is the way God created me and I am perfect just the way I am. I don’t know what my life would have been like if I was tall but it doesn’t matter because I like my life just the way it is.

Even when people make comments about it I tell them big things come in small packages, diamonds are not huge but have a lot of value. Whatever you consider a flaw is an area of insecurity. It may be physical, something to do with your body. It may be in speaking, maybe fluency in speech, an accent, annunciation, etc. it may be your height or even your weight or a form of disability.

In any case, you can still succeed despite them. Nick Vujicic  has no arms and legs but he goes around motivating people. What’s your excuse?

Sometimes we allow the opinions of others such as friends, family , frenemies, and naysayers, get into our head. Today, I want to challenge you to shut the voices out and take a moment to reflect on you.

  • Who are you?
  • What are your aspirations?
  • Where do you see yourself in a couple of years?
  • What’s standing in your way?

I’ll have you know you are the only one that can stand in your way. Don’t wait another day. Don’t allow the ‘what ifs’ to set in again. Take the plunge and start now, even with the smallest step. So rise above your presumed flaws and insecurities and let’s build the confidence required. Remember it can only hold you back if you allow it to. Down the road, you do not want to look back in regret, hoping and wishing that you had done more with your life. There is no better time than now.

What is that one thing you desire to do that you’ve been talking yourself out of?

There’s no better time than the present… I’m rooting for you.

Lola Coker-Esu
Lola Coker-Esu
Lola Coker-Esu is an Author, Speaker and Coach whose main objective is to help female entrepreneurs build their businesses with confidence so they can live the life they desire. She hopes to achieve this through training on building your confidence and creating passive income.

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