The maiden edition of the monthly mumpreneur hangout was held on the 24th of September 2017. The idea of an offline meetup came out of the necessity to bring mums together to talk about issues affecting their homes and businesses with no holds barred. Online connections are great, but sometimes face-to-face meetings take the online interactions to another level and bonds are formed. Becoming a mother changes your life and without the right support system, you can lose all your essence and dreams. I know mothers who have reached out to me to ask about phases they were dealing with, wondering if there was something wrong with them. This amongst many other things led to the birth of this offline meetups for mumpreneurs.
The hangout was hosted in a circle meeting by Tosin; a mum, photographer and child educator at her Creche in Ikeja. We wanted an ambience where mothers could come with their children while we sit around and just talk, no lectures or seminars, just heart felt talk. The theme for this episode was about nannies. People have different views as to whether nannies are necessary or not. We also explored how to address this when our spouses do not support the idea of a nanny.
This edition was especially interesting because we got a perspective from a man who was bold enough to hang out with all the women. Lol. Mr. Teniola Esan brought a balanced perspective as to why a man would flatly refuse to agree to hiring a nanny and how women should address this.
The round circle started with introductions and this led to different discussions we didn’t even plan for. We bore our hearts on different business challenges before we delved into the subject of the day. One key take away from the discussions was this – We need to realize that running a home is team work; it’s not solely the responsibility of the woman.
1. Before you engage a nanny, ensure you do proper background checks. Don’t leave the running of the house solely to your nanny.
2. If you like your personal space, you can consider a come and go nanny, crèche services or a cleaner who comes on agreed dates.
3. If a man objects to getting a nanny or hired help, try to find out the underlying reason why he is objecting so you can address the concerns and put checks in place.
4. If you are absolutely terrified of nannies, you can also consider building a support system around family I.e Parents, siblings or people within the family who are available and can help.
At the end of the discussions, we all agreed that each person has unique circumstances and the choice to employ hired help or not is an individual decision. The consensus remains that we all need support but it doesn’t always have to be in the form of a nanny or Live in helps.
The next edition is slated for Sunday the 29th of October and this time we discuss the fear of billing appropriately. During our initial banter before we delved into the nanny topic, issues relating to this phobia came up and we agreed that it is a challenge common to many women in business. We are so passionate that we sometimes pursue passion over profit. Does this sound like you? Come over on the 29th and let’s discuss.